Thanksgiving Day. It’s the one day of the year when we intentionally pause to focus on gratitude. But if we’re honest, how often do we get distracted by what isn’t perfect? The turkey might be a little dry, the table might not be Pinterest-worthy, or the conversations around it might veer into uncomfortable territory. It’s so easy to let complaints sneak in and steal the joy of the day.

Elisabeth Elliot wisely observed:

“It is always possible to be thankful for what is given rather than to complain about what is not given. One or the other becomes a habit of life.”

Let that sink in. Gratitude and complaining are both habits. The one we choose will shape not just this Thanksgiving Day but the rhythm of our everyday lives.

The Heart of Gratitude

Gratitude is a recurring theme in Scripture, and for good reason. It shifts our perspective. When we focus on what we have, rather than what we lack, our hearts are softened, and we see God’s goodness more clearly.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 reminds us:

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

Notice it says all circumstances. Not just when the blessings are obvious or the table is overflowing, but even in the hard, messy, and imperfect moments. Gratitude isn’t about ignoring difficulties; it’s about choosing to trust God’s provision and presence, no matter what.

What’s on Your Table?

Thanksgiving isn’t just about what’s on the table; it’s about who provides it. Even if your table looks different this year—fewer people, simpler food, or unexpected challenges—God’s faithfulness remains constant.

Consider Psalm 107:1:

“Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever.”

His goodness isn’t dependent on our circumstances. His love doesn’t waver when life feels uncertain. When we focus on what is—God’s unchanging character, the relationships we cherish, the breath in our lungs—we cultivate a habit of gratitude.

Breaking the Habit of Complaint

Let’s be real: complaining comes easily. It’s natural to notice what’s missing or what didn’t go as planned. But when we let complaints take over, we miss the beauty of what’s right in front of us.

The Israelites in the wilderness are a prime example. God delivered them from slavery, provided manna, and led them with a cloud by day and fire by night. Yet they grumbled. They focused on what they didn’t have rather than the miraculous provision right before their eyes.

How often do we do the same? We complain about the traffic on the way to Grandma’s house instead of being thankful for the time we get to spend with family. We grumble about the dishes instead of appreciating the meal that preceded them. Complaints blind us to blessings.

Practicing Thanksgiving Every Day

Here’s the thing: Thanksgiving shouldn’t just be a one-day celebration. Gratitude is a practice—a habit we can nurture daily. Imagine what life could look like if we approached each day with the same intentional thankfulness we (try to) focus on during Thanksgiving.

Here are a few ways to make gratitude a habit:

1. Start with Prayer. Each morning, thank God for three things, no matter how small. A warm bed, a sunrise, a kind word—it all counts.
2. Shift Your Perspective. When you catch yourself complaining, pause and find something to be thankful for instead. For example, “This turkey is dry, but I’m so glad we’re gathered together to enjoy it.”
3. Remember God’s Faithfulness. Keep a gratitude journal or list where you record answered prayers and moments of blessing. Revisit it when life feels heavy.
4. Speak It Out Loud. Express gratitude to others. Thank the cook for their effort, the host for opening their home, or your family for their love. Gratitude grows when shared.
5. Anchor in Scripture. Let verses like Colossians 3:15 guide you:”Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.”

A Thanksgiving Challenge

This Thanksgiving, I challenge you (and myself) to choose gratitude over complaints. When the temptation to grumble arises, remember Elisabeth Elliot’s words and ask yourself: “Am I forming a habit of gratitude or a habit of complaint?”

Let’s be intentional about thanking God for what is—the imperfect but beautiful moments, the blessings we often take for granted, and above all, His enduring love.

Happy Thanksgiving, friends. May gratitude overflow from your heart and table today and every day.